Letters to Boys: Misadventures in Life & Love, by Sarai Johnson
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Letters to Boys is a healing journey Life, love and relationships mark us – sometimes indelibly. It is only through understanding those scars, through revisiting the pain and celebrating the beautiful lost moments that we are reborn and remade. If we can start to tell our stories, to use our voices, and to listen to each other, we can reconcile our rifts to come to a new place of understanding and transcendence. On the verge of my 35th birthday, just after achieving my 8th year of marriage, my life blew up. As a mother of two, a wife, an accomplished professional, a worship leader at my church, and an entrepreneur, I suddenly found myself the victim of a bizarre sexual assault. It disrupted my whole world. It rattled my sense of self, challenged my concept of security and wholeness, and shook me to the core. As I started to pick up the pieces, I realized that this event was so powerful and significant it had the potential to break up a shell I had unconsciously built around myself. It threatened (promised) to tear down the tower of external definitions of who I thought I was supposed to be, which I had created over years and years without really stopping to consider the choices I was making along the way. This is my journey, in letters.
Letters to Boys: Misadventures in Life & Love, by Sarai Johnson- Amazon Sales Rank: #1447114 in Books
- Published on: 2015-09-10
- Original language: English
- Number of items: 1
- Dimensions: 9.00" h x .57" w x 6.00" l, .76 pounds
- Binding: Paperback
- 252 pages
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful. Amazingly candid autobiography By Jerry Russell This is a wonderfully, at times brutally honest account. More importantly, it's a great contribution to the ongoing conversation about religion, relationships and marriage in modern culture. It's the story of a divorce, ending a marriage that didn't have much romance, and even less sex, at least according to the author -- ending after only eight years, with two young children coping with the aftermath.I'm sure this is not the way Sarai wanted things to turn out. What is the problem here? Sarai suggests that maybe it's the sex education program she didn't receive, or maybe it's the patriarchal aspects of the religion she was brought up in. I'm sure that's part of the problem, and hard core bible-thumping Christians should really be asking themselves why their moral strictures aren't getting the results they want. But there is also the question of the effects of our sexualizing culture, the mass media that we're immersed in.The blurb for the book says it's about sexual assault. For me, that didn't feel like a completely fair characterization of the events described. Not that I would want to justify the man's behavior, much less behave that way myself. Sarai told the man she was married, and didn't want to have sex. So no sex, right? But, according to her own account: Sarai met the man at a bar on a business trip, flirted with him, had a drink or two, invited him up to her room, gave him a blow job, and then climbed on top of him for sex. Given that sequence of actions, her declarations of non-consent seem more than a bit incongruous. Her husband, hearing about this "sexual assault", suggested that she press rape charges. But I don't see much chance there could have been a conviction. How can there be any social justice, and what's a judge to do -- if rape can be something that happens quietly, at the end of an enthusiastic oral sex session, with no witnesses? If it's just his word against hers? Sarai talks about rape as something involving "kicking and screaming", which would constitute real and unmistakeable notice to the rapist, and also likely get some witnesses. As Sarai herself admits, the situation was actually "nuanced". And if it was indeed some sort of rape, she rewards her rapist by returning to the scene of the crime for more of the same action, but with full consent the second time around.So how has it come to this? Sarai says "I spent my young life feeling like the goalie of my own vagina. I had a perfect record - lots of attempts, zero goals." Tragically, she mounted just such a defense against the true love of her life, Joshua, who settled for marrying someone else. Sarai then settled for her husband, "Unkie Stu", who she never seemed to like much either. The man she encountered was an uncalibrated, even dangerous "pickup artist", a species of man that has evolved in response to women who always say "no". Like Sarai, many women seem to be out of touch with their true feelings to the extent that they can't recognize how bad their sex lives are, or how badly something needs to change. In response to that, men who are skilled and persistent in turning a woman's "no" into "yes" are successful in getting their sexual needs met, while men who are too respectful are called "virgins".I don't know what the answer is, but a feminist approach of blaming the problem entirely on the men is not going to help anything. Having said that, I still feel good about giving the book a five-star rating, because it does such a great job of talking about the problem from Sarai's perspective.
0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. It was hard to read, and i love it for that. By Amazon Customer So, I am a middle class, white male, raised with a protestant backround, and extremely right wing ideals in almost all things, that i still hold to this day. I also lead in the worship at my church. Because of my religious backround i felt a deep conection to the author who at a young age went through a lot of the things I did when I was young.Now why would a conservative male want to read this book, when most of my demographic would rather just ignore the social issues brought up in this book? Well, for one, I think its really important to get perspective from all points of view, even if you'll never agree, and even if you hate that view (NOT that i hate ANYTHING in this book). And also, for me, sexual assault has been hard to wrap my head around. I dont know why, its just.....hard. I want to, because, objectively, I know this is a serious. thing, but I'm just having a hard time.I have to say, I'm glad i read this book. It did help me understand a lot of things, and even gave me perspective on my marriage.The chapter that hit me the hardest was the one about Christopher, definatly the most abusive relationship. He used some fake excuse of "Gods will" to try to get in her pants, and also out of the relationship. Not only that, but, he was extremely physically harmful as well. Thus was difficult to read, because i went to various summer camps and churches all over upstate ny, and i knew people like him. It just hit close to home.A later chapter talks about her relationship with her ex-husband. Specifically when the author says that it was an almost entirely sexless relationship, that hit me pretty hard. I commited to makeing love to my wife that night, and at least every other night after that. I never wanted her to feel that way.Im not going to talk about the more "Gray area" sexual assault that also hit me hard in the book. I'm just not sure i have a place in that conversation, besides just trying to understand, and love people in spite of my personal feelings ok anything.All it all, 5/5. Would read this book again, and recomend this book to a friend.Thank you so much for sharing your story Sarai. It really did touch me.
0 of 0 people found the following review helpful. A powerful book full of funny and touching moments By Isaac Judd I can honestly say that this book moved me completely. After reading the first chapter from the pre-order, I was hooked. Once the full book arrived I read the entire book over the course of 2 days and could not put it down. The author has a very distinct writing style which is very readable and relatable. This book brings up many touchy subjects dealing with relationships between men and women. Reading this book and seeing so clearly the view through the eyes of the author allowed me as the reader an honest glimpse into the experience on the other side of the gender divide. This book is often very funny, always touching and sometimes heartbreaking. There is a rare vulnerability to this story and this authors gift for writing makes me excited to read anything that she writes. You will not be disappointed after reading this book, but it will challenge you to think more about the dynamics between men and women.
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